Not sure how to ask your boss for a raise or quiet your chatty coworker? Etiquette expert Arden Clise is here to answer your awkward workplace questions.

Q: How do I ask my boss for a raise?

A: It’s always nerve-racking asking for a raise. However, as some wise person said, “If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.” I would add, if it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t put extra change in your pocket. Keep these points in mind for more success in your request:

AskArdenBioDo your research. Learn whether the company is growing and meeting its goals. Is there room in the budget for a raise? What is your position paid at similar companies?

Avoid the personal. Make your request less about your needs and more about what you bring to the company. Your boss probably doesn’t care that your daughter’s college tuition is expensive. Instead, share your value, such as money you’ve saved the company or initiatives you oversaw that increased revenue or efficiency.

Be professional. Avoid complaining, issuing ultimatums, or getting emotional. Stick to the facts, and be gracious and polite.

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